Talking to your kids about coming back to school

 Welcome and welcome back to some families as we begin the 2020-2021 school year at Wheelock.  I am very excited to see the students again.  However, I am sure many families have a 'mixed bag' of emotions.  Teachers and staff are working so hard to ensure a safe and welcoming return to school.  Myself and Mrs. Bockhorst (our part time counselor) have put together some talking points we thought would be helpful for families.  

1.  What to do if your child is feeling worried:

1. Normalize - It is common to feel worried before we do something new, for both kids and adults

2.  Remind of prior successes - help your child think of a time they did something they overcame their nerves

3. Practice relaxation strategies 

1. - Deep breaths - Roller Coaster Breathing 

2. - Positive mantra - “I can do hard things.”

   
   

2. How to help your child adapt to wearing masks

1. Explain: Wearing a mask helps protect ourselves and other people

2. Take a picture of you and your student wearing the mask

3. Practice: 

1. start small and build up from there 

2. take small trips to libraries or stores so that kids can begin to practice mask wearing

3. Wear the mask during a preferred activity like ipad time

4. Play pretend with the mask, try putting a mask on your stuffed animal

5. Have fun picking a mask, let your child get to chose

6.  Practice what your child can say if another student takes off their mask - “Oops, don’t forget your mask.”

 

3. Explain how staying 6 feet apart keeps you safe

1. - Help your child recognize how far 6 feet is 

1. Measure it out together

2. Draw it with chalk

3. Airplane Arms

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4. Help your child rehearse what to say if someone is too close “Please remember six feet apart!” “Whoops, we have to remember our space”

Saying Hello/Greeting Friends - Prepare your child that they can greet their friends with all sorts of friendly “hellos” from a distance

Resources to help talk to kids about racism

I am writing this important blog post to provide resources/support to help you as parents and to help our children throughout this continued difficult time.  The horrific death of George Floyd along with the long standing issue of race in our country, is I'm sure on the forefront of many people's minds right now.  Not only as an elementary school psychologist, but as a mom of a four year old asking questions, I want to help provide some developmentally friendly resources so that we can do our part in making the world a better place.  

1. Here is a great social story that Mrs. Ryan (one of our district BCBAs) shared with me, this social story helps to explain things with kid friendly language and pictures

2. The Medfield Superintendent Dr. Marsden shared this article with several great pointers about talking to kids about race and racism

3. This website provides a list of 37 books that address race and discrimination

4. This website provides a list of helpful books according to age range for those of you who have kids spanning various ages.

5. Lastly, CNN is pairing up with Sesame Street to conduct a 'town hall' Saturday morning 6/6.  I know our kids at Wheelock are older than Sesame Street's target audience but reading the description of the event it seems like it would be a worthwhile resource.  They're having a panel of experts help to answer questions submitted by kids/families.  

I hope you all find these resources helpful, thank you for your time.

Talking to Children about Covid-19

In an effort to help support the any anxiety about the ongoing concern of the Corona virus or Covid-19, I am going to share two very helpful resources.  The first is an article from the National Association of School Psychologists (NASP) with good talking points.

https://www.nasponline.org/resources-and-publications/resources-and-podcasts/school-climate-safety-and-crisis/health-crisis-resources/talking-to-children-about-covid-19-(coronavirus)-a-parent-resource

This next resource is set up in a comic format and may or may not be appropriate to share with your kids, based on your judgement. 

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2020/02/28/809580453/just-for-kids-a-comic-exploring-the-new-coronavirus

I hope you find these resources helpful. 

Supporting Your Child with a Disability

Supporting the Emotional Needs of Kids with Disabilities

By Child Mind Institute 

I recently came across this article (linked above) which highlights some great ways to support your child if they have a disability.  I often hear about concerns with kids who may have low self esteem because of their disabilities.  I think this is such an important topic and a great opportunity for open and ongoing discussion.  I have blogged and shared resources about this topic before (see earlier posts), but I think this article highlights some key points as well.  I especially like how the Child Mind Institute highlights how a student's disability (often times) has nothing to do with their intelligence level.  Most students with a learning disability whether it's reading based or ADHD are of at least Average intelligence levels.  I think this is an important factor to point out to kids.